Dear Annie: Bisexual man worries what coming out will do to friendship

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Dear Annie: I am a grown man who happens to be bisexual, meaning I love both men and women, but I have this one problem. There’s a really good male friend of mine who has done a lot of good things for me and my family. I appreciate everything he’s done to help us. I wish I could come out of the closet to him, but I’m too worried that I might ruin whatever friendship we both have if I let him know about this. I worry that I might NOT be accepted for who I am.

What advice do you have for me about coming out to my friend? -- Cautious to Come Out

Dear Cautious: It’s completely understandable to feel apprehensive about having this conversation. But if your friend cares about and values your friendship as much as it sounds like he does, I am sure he’ll want nothing more than to support you. Your romantic preferences shouldn’t change the relationship you two share, and I hope he will agree. Take your time, and when you feel ready, share this with him. A true friend will appreciate your openness and allow this to deepen your friendship.

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